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Marriage becoming optional, study says

Posted by Tuklasan on February 11, 2012 at 5:50 PM Comments comments (0)

Marriage becoming optional, study says


Posted at 02/03/2012 6:55 PM | Updated as of 02/03/2012 6:56 PM

MANILA, Philippines - Filipinos are beginning to see marriage as an option rather than a requirement, a study showed.

International marketing communications company JWT, in a report on trends in brands and products in the Philippines for 2012, said there is a "growing acceptance of happily single mothers or single by choice professional women in their workplaces" among low- to middle-income segments.

"They loathe to publicly declare it being in a predominantly Catholic country. But it has been a long accepted reality that... women have been thinking of deferring marriage to avoid a potentially emotionally traumatizing mistake. They turn to their professional development which is something more under their control," said the report, which is based on surveys and focus group discussions of Filipinos from lower- and middle-income classes.

It added that a growing number of married women in their 30s and 40s want to experience "a few days of singlehood" with their unmarried friends, leaving the kids at home with their fathers.

The report also cited 2004 figures from the National Statistics Office, which showed that the number of Filipino marriages are declining and more marriages are being annulled. The Philippines is the only country in Asia that does not acknowledge legal divorce.

"A growing segment of women is taking an alternate life route, one that does not include marriage as an essential checkpoint," it noted.

NSO's figures in 2008 showed that marriage is losing its luster for many in the Philippines, with more couples starting families out of wedlock. More than 37% of the 1.78 million babies born in the country had unmarried mothers, 12.5% higher than in the previous year.

A study from the University of Missouri-Colombia last year, meanwhile, revealed that young adults are slowing the road to marriage with "stayover relationships," where they can enjoy committed relationships without living together.

Love not enough to keep couples together

Posted by Tuklasan on March 23, 2010 at 10:40 AM Comments comments (0)

Love not enough to keep couples together

Age, previous relationships also are factors in whether marriage lasts


updated 12:37 p.m. ET July 14, 2009

SYDNEY - Living happily ever after needn't only be for fairy tales. Australian researchers have identified what it takes to keep a couple together, and it's a lot more than just being in love.

A couple's age, previous relationships and even whether they smoke or not are factors that influence whether their marriage is going to last, according to a study by researchers from the Australian National University.

The study, entitled "What's Love Got to Do With It," tracked nearly 2,500 couples — married or living together — from 2001 to 2007 to identify factors associated with those who remained together compared with those who divorced or separated.

It found that a husband who is nine or more years older than his wife is twice as likely to get divorced, as are husbands who get married before they turn 25.

Children also influence the longevity of a marriage or relationship, with one-fifth of couples who have kids before marriage — either from a previous relationship or in the same relationship — having separated compared to just nine percent of couples without children born before marriage.

Women who want children much more than their partners are also more likely to get a divorce.

A couple's parents also have a role to play in their own relationship, with the study showing some 16 percent of men and women whose parents ever separated or divorced experienced marital separation themselves compared to 10 percent for those whose parents did not separate.

Also, partners who are on their second or third marriage are 90 percent more likely to separate than spouses who are both in their first marriage.

Not surprisingly, money also plays a role, with up to 16 percent of respondents who indicated they were poor or where the husband — not the wife — was unemployed saying they had separated, compared with only nine percent of couples with healthy finances.

And couples where one partner, and not the other, smokes are also more likely to have a relationship that ends in failure.

Factors found to not significantly affect separation risk included the number and age of children born to a married couple, the wife's employment status and the number of years the couple had been employed.

The study was jointly written by Dr Rebecca Kippen and Professor Bruce Chapman from The Australian National University, and Dr Peng Yu from the Department of Families, Housing, Community Services and Indigenous Affairs.

Copyright 2009 Reuters.

How Our Lady of Fatima saved the Pope & Cory- by Letty Jacinto Lopez

Posted by Tuklasan on March 21, 2010 at 5:40 PM Comments comments (3)

How Our Lady of Fatima saved the Pope & Cory

PURPLE SHADES By Letty Jacinto-Lopez (The Philippine Star) Updated August 09, 2009 12:00 AM


The Father and the saint!: Sister Lucia with Pope John Paul II

In the past days, Cory’s friends have been talking about her devotion to Our Lady of Fatima, how she met Sister Lucia at the shrine in Portugal where the saint gave her a rosary. Cory believed in Our Lady of Fatima’s healing power and with her trademark generosity, she would part with her rosary to lend it to friends — both those who needed healing and those who need comfort.

Our Lady of Fatima saved another life many years ago, too: Pope John Paul II.

There is a blurred photograph of Pope John Paul II circulating on the Internet, taken seconds after he was shot and was falling down from his Papamobil. The Pope is shown as being gently cradled by our grief-stricken Blessed Mother. The caption says that, for the first time, the Vatican published this picture and that this photo was taken by one of his security guards.

A news report says: “On May 13, 1981, the anniversary of the Lady of Fatima apparition, the Pope was in St. Peter’s Square at the Vatican. A little girl was holding a picture of the Lady of Fatima, and the Pope leaned over to kiss the picture. Just as he did so, he was shot by a Turkish gunman. If he didn’t lean over, he would have been shot in the heart.”

Pope John Paul was shot twice in the abdomen and survived. What caught the world’s attention was when the Pope visited the Turkish would-be assassin in his prison cell. He heard his confession and pardoned him for this grievous sin. Someone even said that when the Pope was shot on a Wednesday, by Sunday of the same week, he was already sending feelers that he wanted to forgive and absolve the gunman. The Pope believed that it was the Lady of Fatima who rescued him, fulfilling the third message of the Lady who predicted the assassination attempt on a “bishop dressed in white.” When he had recovered, he made an emotional pilgrimage to Fatima and had the bullet that wounded him welded into the crown of the Virgin’s statue.

With this in mind, 18 of us joined the “Mariang Ina Ko” (Mary Our Mother) Marian pilgrimage. Located north of Lisbon, Fatima is a bustling town complete with four-star hotels that are clean and modern with efficient and friendly staff. Of course, there are the usual gaudy souvenir shops selling anything from “glow-in-the-dark” statues, Fatima T-shirts, key rings, rosaries and many more.

Over dinner, Father Dave Concepcion, our pilgrimage chaplain, quickly conducted his version of a Gallup Poll. He approached our table first. “Before you indulge in the delicious buffet of sweets and pastries, we have been given two time slots to celebrate a private Mass at the apparition site or Cova da Iria. Which one would you prefer? The 5:30 a.m. or the 7:30 a.m?” Automatically, I cried, “7:30 a.m. please!” The rest of my table mates agreed. “Wait,” Father Dave replied. “I also need to ask the rest of the group.”

Father Dave approached the next table. The majority wanted the 5:30 a.m. slot. Outvoted and outnumbered, I set my alarm at 4:00 a.m. It was dark and cold and wet.

The massive esplanade, normally teeming with devotees and pilgrims, was deserted — except for two people who turned out to be the minders of the chapel Capela da Apariçoes at the apparition site.

“I could be sleeping, snug and warm under the blanket,” I grumbled. But hush. The usher led us to the innermost area of the chapel, a few feet away from where the original bush was — now a marble pillar — literally a breath of soft wind away from where Mama Mary stood. When Fr. Dave emerged from the private sacristy to begin Mass, a feeling of gentle presence wrapped around me. I heard myself saying, “What better way to pay Our Blessed Mary a visit than in the silence and solemnity of where she appeared?”

The Mass was finished before I knew it. When I looked up, I saw early risers converging in the chapel, mingling in the outer area but close enough to catch the last of the blessings being dispensed by Fr. Dave. Right then, I wanted to squeeze my neck, in self-chastisement. What was I thinking? When Mother Mary appeared before Lucia, Jacinta and Francisco here in Cova de Iria, this was all ragged soil and rocks. It was so foreboding and harsh that no one came here except the sheep and the goats for grazing. Today, it has all the conveniences of modern times like cemented and marbled walkways, water fountains, park benches, including a paved and smooth “knee- way” for those who’d like to pray on bended knees. There were also loud speakers, organized novenas and processions and a new modern church — Church of the Holy Trinity — that could seat 8,500 pilgrims with 13 bronze doors, modern toilets, a gift shop, a coffee shop and other amenities designed for the ease and comfort of over three million visitors a year.

“Make a sacrifice, just a little sacrifice and look what a whole lot of well-being it can yield.”

Fr. Dave was right.

When I walked back to the hotel — a stone’s throw from the apparition site — the clouds had dispersed and there was the promise of a sunny, pleasant morning ahead. Chirping and full of spirit now, I giggled, “This is so right as rain.”